The goal is to get rid of old attitudes that got in the way of enjoyable sex, establishing new attitudes that increase sexual responsiveness.
If the problem relates to your relationship, couples counseling is recommended. The couples therapist is trained and experienced at helping couples recognize, understand, and solve their problems.First, the counselor explores the relationship to find the trouble spots. The counselor will recommend exercises and activities that will improve the couple’s communication and trust. If that can be accomplished, often the sexual problem can be solved more easily. A sex therapist may take couples therapy one step further by focusing on the couple’s physical relationship. After identifying the couple’s attitudes about sex and the sexual problem, the sex therapist recommends specific exercises to re-focus the couple’s attention and expectations.
Sex counselling can help a woman identify problems in her life that may be expressed as sexual problems. For some women these problems are fairly clear, including past sexual or other abuse, rape, or traumatic sexual encounters.For others, the problems may be less clear-cut, involving unresolved emotional issues or dissatisfaction with other areas of life. In either case, the therapist usually focuses on resetting the woman’s attitudes toward sex.
Specific objectives may include any of the following:
Learning to relax and eliminate distractions, Learning to communicate in a positive way what you would like, Learning nonsexual touching techniques, Increasing or enhancing sexual stimulation,
Minimizing pain during intercourse,Sex therapists often use what are called “sensate focus” exercises to treat sexual problems. The exercises start with nonsexual touching and encourage both partners to express how they like to be touched. The goal is to help both partners understand how to recognize and communicate their preferences. Sex therapists can recommend exercises to help with vaginismus.